My husband & I tend to organize clothes differently (causing chaos in our closets), but we've come to a nice compromise. The following setup works pretty well. Note: We both wash & put away laundry.
Short Answer: Label everything!
1) We utilized Closet Organizing Dividers and sorted clothes like so.
Short Sleeve Tops
Long Sleeve Tops
2) We labeled all available shelves the way we wanted clothes put away. (For example, top shelf Pajama Pants and bottom shelf Jeans)
3) Last, but not least, we utilized plastic drawers. Drawers are great for storing socks, underwear, and other small items.
Morale of the story: Don't expect your spouse to be psychic! Remove all doubt by labeling your storage areas :-)